Hey you.

You probably don't read my blog and that's perfectly fine. I stumbled upon yours and now I wish I hadn't.

 You wrote a post about how "happy" and "successful" of a mother you are. How happy you are that you "sleep trained" your babies. And how wonderful your life is now that your babies aren't "controlling" you. Oh, and you wrote about your "diet" plan and how much happier you are now that you lost all the baby weight from your pregnancy.

Honestly, after reading your post I don't know whether to laugh or cry. Laugh at how you think you are in control of your life. Or cry about how you think in order to be a "successful" mom you have to train your kids or lose all of your baby weight.

I guess you and I have different definitions of success.

I don't necessarily have a problem with sleep training. I wouldn't do it myself but I believe there are many ways out there to parent. My problem with your post is that you called us mothers who rocked their kids every time they woke up "crazy". I've never let my babies cry it out. Never will. That's my personal decision. I even *gasp* share a bed with my kids!! Most nights I get lots of sleep. There are a few nights I don't, but I do get extra cuddles those nights, so either way for me its a win.

And who came up with the idea that babies need to be trained?? They aren't animals! They are tiny humans who need love and caring and compassion just as adults do!

I view myself as a pretty successful parent as long as I am staying involved in the nurturing and teaching of my children. Making sure their needs are met and their owies are kissed and they get plenty of love and snuggles from me. It's hard work but its my dream job. I wouldn't trade it for the world. Success for me isn't getting 10 hours of sleep or weighing 130lbs. I barely get 8 hours and I'm still rockin' an extra 10lbs from each pregnancy. But that's ok. I have two more hours than you do for lovin' on my children. And I'm positive that my husband looks at me and sees perfection just the way I am.

So basically, what I'm trying to say is: You've worked so hard "training" your kids and "dieting" to achieve happiness 9 months later. Guess what? I've had it all along.

Oh and my sister has something to say to you too.

Sincerely,
Kolena